I’ve been mulling over human agency. In the past I’ve not recognized or respected this right in you. I’ve bulldozed your dignity in the spirit of ‘jollying you along’. In a culture where it’s polite to refuse help, the last piece of cake or a ride in the rain the first time it’s offered, the line can blur for me between respectfully understanding your wishes, and pushing you to do what I think you need and want. I am deeply saddened for the times I’ve made you uncomfortable by trampling on your autonomy. Now that I am enlightened I aim to always accept your first answer, trusting you will be honest and forthright as I stand here with a heart wanting to serve you.


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